Alderroot Healing & Renewal
What would it feel like to be truly supported and honored in midlife?
We're taking care of others, holding leadership roles, and are just in charge of so much. There’s a lot to do every day and we try to do it all well. We often feel so busy, exhausted, overwhelmed, and alone in this stage of life.
The pace and pressure of our dominant culture and the current unraveling of our social structures and climate can leave us feeling dysregulated and disconnected from our soul’s knowing and purpose.
Our sense of aliveness and joy feels dimmed.
As women in midlife, we’re typically experiencing the challenges of perimenopause and menopause, a transition process which heightens our sensitivity (we feel more irritable and raw), lowers our sense of resilience (we feel more tired and tender), and leaves us feeling unmoored (we can feel lost and unsure).
Through this time of transition (which typically lasts 7-10 years!) you might notice feeling:
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much more irritable and anxious
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more burned out than usual–heavy and tired (and probably you’re not sleeping well either)
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like life as usual just doesn’t fit you anymore (the spark is dim or gone)
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a deep longing for more space for yourself
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exhausted by the cycle of never doing or being enough
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your soul yearning for something more, even if you’re not quite sure what
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disconnected from who you thought you were and what you thought you wanted
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a yearning to find or spend more time with your people
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In this transition time we experience deep identity changes and big life shifts. But our dominant culture largely ignores and discounts this momentous change.
Instead of support for this tender time of emotional and soul-level change in our lives, we are often left feeling isolated, discouraged, and lost. You may be wondering….is it just me?
Nope! It certainly is not.
But we need another way to experience midlife.
This way honors transition as an unfolding process and tunes into our soul’s need for attention and care during midlife.
This way offers guidance through sacred and seasonal earth connection, wise elders, and nourishing spiritual practices.
This way invites us into sisterhood, where we are seen and appreciated, held in relationship and ritual as we move through transition together. We more fully open our hearts to all that is both difficult and beautiful, together.
Intentionally moving through midlife transition in these ways, we are more grounded, calm, and whole. We feel deeply supported and nourished.
We stop trying to please everyone and do everything and we tune inward. We move through life with more simple intention and presence.
We begin to know the magic of soul care, and of being guided and supported from a web of sacred connection. We feel our sisterhood in new ways, showing up for each other’s stories, uncertainties, sorrows, and beautiful moments.
I'm Dr. Heather Burns. I'm a midlife doula, a soulful coach, and seasoned eco-spiritual facilitator.
I believe that women in midlife need extra soul care, earth-based guidance, and a sisterhood of support to move through this transition time with more joy, calm, and connection
I believe that we need soulful and sacred spaces where we can be seen in our difficult moments, and where we can let ourselves unfurl into who we are becoming.
We need the guidance of earth beings and wise elders, and we need each other's stories and support.
I understand how hard it is to be a busy and caring woman in midlife at this time of climate crisis and crumbling social systems. I understand how hard it is to feel whole and happy within dominant systems that pretty much ignore the significant physical, emotional, and spiritual changes that we are going through at midlife.
These dominant systems support profit, production, and urgency over our well-being. And let’s face it, we women pretty much hold the important things together.
But, there’s another way to move through midlife transition: With soul care, earth-based guidance, and a sisterhood of support.
Instead of feeling alone and unseen in this very messy and exhausting time of change, you can turn toward your soul’s knowing. You can receive guidance and support from earth elders. And you can root yourself in meaningful connection with other women who are also experiencing the messiness of mid-life transition.
I work primarily with women in midlife who want to deepen and expand their life-joy and sense of ease. They want to turn towards their soul's knowing, be guided by earth and spirit, and be in supportive community with other women in mid-life.
I help women root into their Self-energy and earth wisdom to feel more grounded, calm, confident, cared-for, and connected.
